End of October 2012 Favorite Blog Posts Comments43 Comments

Hmmm so what pointless stuff do I ramble on about in this favorite posts intro?

Well I’m sitting on my computer drinking some beer as my friend fights with his girlfriend on the phone. Good times. I’m subtly playing songs about breaking up and being on your own lol. It turns out I have lots of songs about that kind of thing. I don’t think he’s noticing, but hopefully I’m doing my part to push him to the right decision.

I think everyone involved knows what the right move is, but I guess it’s not my really my business. My place is likely to just support whatever he’s thinking and give a bit of feedback. What if I just want to tell him ‘leave the bitch’? Is that overstepping some boundary? I’m probably doing my part by just having him over and giving him a couch to crash on.

Ok this rambling has nothing to do with personal finance or blogging. Do I care? Not really. If I have any non-blogger regular readers they must know by now that they can’t expect any weekend financial advice from me.

So on that note, let’s send you all to some bloggers who do consistently talk about finance. Ok I admit there are some blogs that aren’t even finance blogs mixed in.

Favorite Posts On Other Blogs

Ok the bloggers on this list know full well that I have been inactive with commenting. So they can probably figure out that I haven’t reading finance blogs lately. I’ve got a strong feeling these are some good posts though :) If I had more time I’d be reading each and every one of them.

How We Survived On $14 An Hour on iHeart Budgets

More Money Than Brains on Freedom Thirty Five Blog

Moving from Employed to Self Employed, What Am I Forgetting? on Eyes On The Dollar

Is a College Degree Worth it? on Frugal Rules

How to prevent food waste on The Outlier Model

September CPI up 0.6%: I Bonds Rate Announced on Your Personal Finance Pro

Reader Question:Is It Savvy To Cash In My RRSP’s To Pay Off Debt? on Canadian Budget Binder

Getting Your Credit Card Debt Under Control on One Smart Dollar

The Secret Key to Success on Street Smart Finance

Top Tips for the Holidays on Savvy Scot

How Much Cash Do You Carry? on Broke Ass Mommy

Van Paid Off on Tight Fisted Mister

The Elements of Investing on Vix Money

Saving Up to Buy a Place in an Expensive City on Mo Money Mo Houses

Saving Money: Where Do You Draw the Line? on Ready For Zero

Alligator Wrestling | How to Submit a Gator and Escape With Your Life Like Steve Irwin on Fearless Men

So back to my earlier rambling, what do you do when a friend is having relationship problems? Do you fully speak your mind of do you just try to support what they’re thinking? Do you feel the need to push them in the right direction if you think you know what’s best for them?

If you enjoyed this post, please consider subscribing to the RSS feed or you are welcome to leave a comment below.
This entry was posted in Financial Advice, and tagged Comments43 Comments
By : Jeremy Biberdorf | 27 Oct 2012
Tweet this article :
Div line

43 thoughts on “End of October 2012 Favorite Blog Posts

    1. Jeremy

      Well that night drinking with my friend was actually Thursday night. I was just killing time while he was on the phone for a while. The weekend did get exciting though.

      Reply
  1. Kim@EyesontheDollar

    Man, I’ve been burned with that before. When someone breaks up and you tell them how lousy you thought their ex was and agree with the breakup. Then they get back together, and it’s a bit uncomfortable after you’ve confessed what a lazy sot you thought their partner was. I try to just nod and say encouraging things, but remain neutral. Good luck and thanks for the mention.

    Reply
    1. Jeremy

      Yeah that’s a tough situation to be in. You don’t want to reveal that you don’t like the person they end up with. I haven’t been in that situation myself, but I have seen other people get caught doing that.

      Reply
  2. Jennifer Lynn @ Broke-Ass Mommy

    Jeremy, you totally are missing out by not reading all of our enthralling posts. Hope you are able to carve some time out for relaxation and reading soon. What type of beer? (Oh, I’d tell your friend to leave the bitch, and then support him in whatever he decides.)

    Reply
    1. Jeremy

      That’s the approach I pretty much took. He knows he needs to leave her and probably needed some encouragement with the decision. I haven’t found out what happened between them yet. As for the beer, it was some variety pack of a small local brewery. St Ambroise I think?

      Reply
  3. Veronica

    Thanks for inclusion as always! Much appreciated! I’ve been in your situation, and what I learned was to stay out of people’s relationships. Sometimes we may feel like our friends are blind when it comes to who they’re with, but there is often more to it than that, things we just don’t know about. Like you say, give him a couch to crash on and be comforting, just be careful not to give any definitive advice that would push him one way or another.

    Reply
    1. Jeremy

      That is so true. From the outside you never really know the full situation. Depending on the situation and their level of openness, what they tell you would usually be biased towards what they’re feeling at the time. It’s really up to them to make the decision. In this case though I really know it’s in his best interests to leave her and he knows that. I’m sure it’s still a tough call.

      Reply
    1. Jeremy

      The trip to the island was good, although a little short since we only went for one night. It was nice to get away for a different pace of life.

      Reply
  4. Canadian Budget Binder

    Oh, Mrs.CBB has but it does no good really. People will do what they want to do no matter what you say. They need to learn from their mistakes and heck who are we to know what they feel in their hearts. I mean if they are in an abusive relationship well that’s a different story but for the most part I don’t say anything. Mrs.CBB has a friend who was engaged, then left him moved out, now they are back together. She came whined about him bla bla.. now they are back. So really, who cares… let them sort it out offer your two cents and let it be. That’s what I would do if it were a good mate. Mr.CBB.. Oh.. thanks for the mention..

    Reply
    1. Jeremy

      I was just mostly echoing back what he was thinking. With most situations you don’t want to be too opinionated, but there are some when they really need someone to push them in the right direction. You also have to consider the nature of their relationship. Some people just fight a lot and manage to work out all kinds of problems.

      Reply
  5. Liquid

    I can sometimes tell if a post will be good or bad by the number of comments it’s gotten, but that’s not always an accurate indication of quality. Thanks a lot for the mention :0) I’m just surprised you still have time to post so frequently even with your full time day job. Haha, baby leopard looks constipated. Maybe he ate too much red meat :D Not that it’s any of my business, but I think tough love can be a good thing sometimes.

    Reply
    1. Jeremy

      I do actually take comment count into consideration when doing these favorite posts lists blind. I agree that it often does reflect which posts are better on a blog, but there can be ones where it was just a more controversial topic. The only reason I’ve been able to post so often is because of all the guest posts. These Friday-Saturday posts aren’t exactly complex posts that take a long time to put together.

      Reply
  6. Vicky

    I find that you can just be supportive. Sometimes they would just resent you for giving advice, even though it makes perfect sense to you.

    I like how you play music with subliminal messages though. :) A not too subtle way to get your message across. You should find theme songs as well for you and your roommate. :)

    Have a good weekend!

    Reply
    1. Jeremy

      I kinda think the subliminal music went over his head as he was so into the phone conversation. His mind probably didn’t have the extra focus to process it. It was worth a try though. It is true that your advice not always be taken the way you’d expect it. You don’t want your attempt at support to end up causing more problems.

      Reply
  7. Mo' Money Mo' Houses

    Ugh I’ve been in several situations where I want to tell my friends “The guy’s a loser, dump him!” but even if I did tell them, it wouldn’t do anything, so I’d say just be a good friend and maybe keep your opinion to yourself unless it’s asked for. Though I definitely have trouble doing that myself when I see a friend just do something stupid. Anywho, thanks for the mention, have a great weekend!

    Reply
    1. Jeremy

      I bet it’s pretty different depending if you’re giving a guy or a girl opinionated advice. I think a guy would probably be able to take the advice a lot easier while a woman might read into it a lot more and end up resenting you.

      Reply
    1. Jeremy

      I don’t mind that your blog is only partly about finances. It’s nice to mix things up a bit. I should probably add more to the mix. Let me know if you have any recommendations.

      Reply
    1. Jeremy

      I can’t say I’m a big fan of Good Charlotte. I remember liking some of their older stuff but then they focused so much on radio friendly songs.

      Reply
  8. Savvy Scot

    Cheers for the mention dude! It is v hard being a friend in that situation… Part of you wants to give the good advice but the other half knows you have to stay impartial and support your mates decision. Hope it is all resolved soon :)

    Reply
    1. Jeremy

      I’m sure it’s somewhat resolved by now, but since my friend isn’t replying to texts I don’t know for sure what happened in the end. I guess I’ll take that as a sign that he’s either busy trying to move on or busy trying to resolve things. I’m sure I’ll find out soon enough.

      Reply
  9. Glen @ Monster Piggy Bank

    I find it can get really messy if you go sticking your beak where it doesn’t belong.

    If however, I am asked for advice or my opinion, then I give an honest assessment of the situation – otherwise I stay way out of it.

    Reply
    1. Jeremy

      The last thing I wanted was to make the situation worse, but it was already at a pretty dire level. I know it can get pretty messy if you go giving your opinion when it’s not really asked for.

      Reply
  10. TB at BlueCollarWorkman

    Thanks for the mention!

    I think back when I was a little younger I’d have said exactly that, “Drop that b*tch, dude, she ain’t worth it.” And maybe I even would today, depending on my mood. BUt at this moment I think it’s better to just keep your mouth shut. What if they get married and your friend always thinks you’re a d*uche for saying sh*t about his girl? That would suck.

    Reply
    1. Jeremy

      That’s true….I care more about staying friends than trying to influence his decision. Really though I don’t see them getting over this problem. It’s the kind of thing that will just keep reoccurring. Sometimes it’s better to break up rather than get in that cycle.

      Reply
  11. Jacob @ iheartbudgets

    Depending on the relationship, I try to ask questions that helps them draw their own conclusions. Telling someone to “leave” someone doesn’t capture the whole of the issue, and relationships are lot more complicated and messy than that.

    Though, I am definitely tempted to do that from time to time :)

    Reply
    1. Jeremy

      Thinking back I think I did that. I didn’t straight up tell him to leave her, but asked some questions and let him vent. I may have said a few things that could bias his decision though.

      Reply
  12. Shannon-ReadyForZero

    I think it’s generally best to wait until your friend asks for advice to give your opinion, because if they’re not ready to hear it then it could actually turn into a conflict in your friendship. Good luck and thanks for shouting out Ben’s article!

    Reply
    1. Jeremy

      In this case he didn’t straight up ask for advice, but by coming over and venting, I’m sure he wanted some kind of feedback. And no problem about sharing Ben’s article.

      Reply
  13. Cat

    Thanks for the mention MM. I have been so bad about visiting other folk’s sites, etc – I’ve been sick then away..sigh. I really will try to get better at it.

    Reply

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

You may use these HTML tags and attributes: <a href="" title=""> <abbr title=""> <acronym title=""> <b> <blockquote cite=""> <cite> <code> <del datetime=""> <em> <i> <q cite=""> <strike> <strong>